Thursday, July 31, 2008
well things here are winding down. This weekend i spent eleven hours strait on my final paper, and i am very proud of it. I havent been able to post any photos because I seemed to have lost the cord that connects my phone to my computer so I cant take the pictures off my phone, but i'll be sure to do it as soon as i get home. I have a final exam tomorrow, and I'm starting to stress over it. It's not that I'm scared, but I just don't know what to expect from it. This course has been an interesting one, but I was a little disappointed in my TA. She was inexperienced, and therefore wasn't able to assist us with the text very well. She tried to steer the discussion in her own way, and didn't let us actually argue over topics. Besides that though, I loved the professor. Professor Salvatore was an amazing teacher, and outside of class he was a great man to meet and get to know. He has roots in the Bay Area besides. He was a grad student at CAL for eight years, so we were able to connect on that subject. He gave us a lecture using music yesterday showing the descent that singers over the years have had with our government, and the way that they voiced it. I am both excited and apprehensive to come home, but i can deal with that on saturday.
Friday, July 25, 2008
I'd just like to take some time to apologize again for the scarcity and vagueness of my blog posts. I have had to write and rewrite this paper and then to top it all off I've had to study for my midterm which was today. The second session has been fairly uneventful. The people here are mostly six week students, so they have for the most part set into the groove of things and found the friends that they will be hanging out with for the rest of the summer. The new three week students are pretty standoffish also. I have the benefit of having friends from last session, and also friends from last year. This program, along with giving me an amazing chance at advancing my education, has given the chance to make friends that i will have for the rest of my life.
The class I am currently taking is both challenging and interesting. We delve into the lesser known parts of American history, including the evangelical movement the Azusa Street revival; we study the readings of people such as Eugene Debs(our professor happens to be the world authority on him) Barry Goldwater, and go into the smaller more intricate workings of our democracy.
The day to day experiences are amazing. I've had chances to explore some of the more historic buildings and places on campus; Sage chapel and Andrew D. White Library are just two examples of historic locations on this campus. I have been able to forge and strengthen bonds with some of the best friends I've ever had, and have reconnected with some long lost friends from Ecuador(Ms. O'Brian knows who I'm talking about), and besides that I've been able to experience school in a different environment than I get on the west coast. I truly have fallen in love with this school.
More to come along with some pictures.
Tuesday, July 22, 2008
more to come,
Sunday, July 20, 2008
In the beginning, I wasn't so sure on what was going to happen. I was going to be thousands of miles from home with only a few people I knew and, gee, let me tell you, the thought was pretty scary. But it turned out to be not that bad.
Once I was settled into my dorm room and social activities began, the kids I met and experiences I had were just like home. I began to feel like I've known the people there all my life, like we had years of memories within those three short weeks.
"Wow, three weeks. That's a long time." That was my mentality before I left. Then in the last few days it was "Nooooo!!!!! It was too short! I'm gonna miss everyone!!!" And then we were all shipped off to our own states and countries.
I've only been home for a week, yet I've told the stories of the fun times from the college probably a million times.
Being at the college was just like being in school over back here in Pinole. The course was just like an AP course (most like my AP US History class last year). All the elements were there: a great teacher, a rigorous syllabus, great friends/students, and even some kids that, well, were obviously not all there.
Nonetheless, it feels good to be home. I have forensics camp on Fridays and I start band camp in less than three weeks. I can't wait! (I get to play quads!)
It's good to be back.
'Til next time,
Friday, July 18, 2008
Wednesday, July 16, 2008
Monday, July 14, 2008
This experience has been one of the best of my life, and I can honestly say that I'll be starting Pinole this year as a new person. I've grown in so many ways and learned so much not only about myself, but also about life itself.
I've learned what it's like to be in a real college class, to live on my own and do my own laundry. I've learned what it's like to meet and interact with different people, and how to take pride in where I come from and in what I can teach others who aren't as fortunate as I am to come from a place as interesting as the Bay Area. I've learned about the origins of western political thought, and how to apply them to the sometimes not as free, nor as just, nor as equal as we may like to think world today. And most importantly, I've learned that the world is so much bigger, and although frightening and stressful at times, is a place full of amazing opportunities and expereiences, much like this one, that I cannot wait to explore and become a part of.
I'll never forget Cornell, the people in it, my class, nor how fortunate I am to have been able to learn and experience so much.
Thank you so much for the opportunity.
Saturday, July 12, 2008
The reason why I decided to take Mind, Body and Health was because after taking chemistry and physics I was becoming turned off by science, and since science is a huge part in the medical field I was wondering if I still wanted to be a doctor. Although my parents friends who are physicians told me they didn't like physics while in school, this class would help me decide if I could be a pediatrician as a life long career even though I didn't like science. Along with my I-search project I did in honors English, this class is helping me decide what I am going to do with my life. I can say I LOVED my class. Learning about the medical history of diseases, the medical field, how it shaped American culture really interest me. There was no part that I was bored with, or not interested in. This class is pushing me to continue to be that pediatrician I always wanted to be.
Cornell was a wonderful experience, as usual. I know I will come back home with many of memories and stories to tell my family and friends for years to come. As college is quickly approaching my future in about a year, this experience will give me knowledge of what is to come when I do enter college as a freshman.
For now I will finish packing, and try not to be on facebook to long!
Friday, July 11, 2008
Cornell overall was a very big experience. I learned a lot, about myself, and about others. Cornell is definitely one of the most beautiful places I have been too (and that's something, because we all know, California is just GORGEOUS all around). Although the usual city things that I am used to aren't around here, it made me appreciate nature (except for the bugs). One of my most favorite parts of Cornell is when I would walk to class in the morning. When passing a bridge that goes over this man-made waterfall type thing, and beyond it is this sparkling lake with the green-est of green trees. No wonder they sell so many postcards of different parts of Cornell here. The scenery is definitely something to show off.
The Ivy League Connection, of course, is the thing that has brought me here. And thanks to the Ivy League Connection, I have memories that are forever unforgettable. Two years at Brown, and this year at Cornell has brought me something that I never even dreamed of before. What are the chances of this type of experience happening to me? It is just....amazing. I am thankful for what I have learned, the most, about myself. As I have said in my previous blog, I have my own voice. And I could not have found it if it wasn't for this whole thing.
Thank You times a million
After the final, my friends and I just wandered around the campus.
After dinner, Chelsey, our new friend Laurence, and I walked around the art quad. We reflected on what happened these past 3 weeks and they began crying because they were going to miss Cornell and this summer college experience so much. (unfortunately, I was unable to shed any tears).
Overall, this summer college experience was great. It was more than just earning that A in class. We learned responsiblity, leadership, and we made lifelong friends. I'm definitely sure that we'll keep in touch for a long time via facebook/phone.
These past 3 weeks have passed by too quickly. If it weren't for the photos I took or the notes I wrote from lecture these past 3 weeks, I would never have believed that time passed so quickly. I don't regret making the decision about going to Cornell summer college at all. It's an unforgettable and incomparable experience.
Well, it's time to pack my luggage and return to my home, the bay area.
Today was the easiest day of the 3 weeks. Our final group report was due today but we finish yesterday. Our group effectively managed time and as a result we finish a day before the project was due. After we turn in our group report we did an evaluation of the class and then got dismissed to say our final good-bye to the “hotelies” who weren’t staying for graduation.
Thursday, July 10, 2008
Tuesday, July 8, 2008
This Blog is to share my experience at Cornell. My thoughts about what is happening here.
I came to Cornell to learn a lot of things. Things like how to deal with an actual college class. Learning how to adjust to a rural environment. Dealing with super smart people, who come from high class private schools. Learning how to deal with my money, so I don't spend it all in the one store around the corner. Learning how to keep my room neat, dealing with my laundry, knowing that I really should throw out the trash. Not being afraid to ask my professor questions, putting my own opinions into discussions. Living independently. Another thing that I also learned: how to deal with issues when they came.
I know a lot of people out there may end up viewing teenagers, well, as teenagers. "Kids" who let themselves be a bit too carefree, not really thinking about consequences of their behavior. Living in the moment. During this time, we learn a lot about life. What serve as great consequences, and what does not. In our seminar today, we met an alcoholic who went to jail at the age of 16 for 8 years. How sad is that? 8 years of his life, just taken away from going down the wrong path. That's how we learn. We begin to shape more into our own thoughts, begin to question things around us. Many adults believe that they want to help, that what they say is really the right thing to be heard. Now, that may not be true, but that is my opinion.
I've recently started to gain my own voice. I started to speak out more, let my opinions be heard. If something bothers me, I don't always just want to keep it to myself, because that's just not fair to me. I can't have decisions made about my life anymore, without my consultation. Who's to say that what I'm saying is wrong? That I don't have the right to be heard? I'm growing up. I'm a different person then what I was when I was a freshman. I don't wish to hide beneath my skin, only telling my comments out to my friends.
I wish to speak out. If I think there are other options besides waiting at an airport for four hours, I will say something. If I want to write in this blog, I will. I understand that this blog is a window for those back home to see what we are doing. And I try to fit it in my schedule. But the work does build up. Like I said, I like my opinion to be heard, and here's one way to do it! Just can't do this everyday.
I recently got sent an email that tells me the thoughts about a current op-ed piece I had to turn in for my Psychology class. I started this essay knowing that it was really for my enjoyment, for me to learn from it. And I know this idea wasn't wrong, because my own Professor told me this. And I did enjoy writing my essay. Turns out that my essay was "amateurish". Well...I definitely am no journalist, I will give you that. I try with essays, I do. There have been so many times when I've been made fun of from the way I speak English. Of course I'm not about to write the best essay in English ever! I have parents who didn't grow up in
Another thing: It is VERY easy to change a situation into something more. This happened with the going to the mall incident, how one was blamed a "ring leader". There was no ring leader then, there is no ring leader now. I have a friend; a friend whom I care about, who quickly got caught up in the situation. As I learned in my class, it’s the situation, not the behavior, that deeply affects a person. Times can be overwhelming, and a lot of negative criticism can be thrown in. Another quick lesson: be careful to what you say to parents, because they are likely to tell their kids.
That's my opinion, and that's my thoughts and feelings. I am learning a lot, here at the prestigious
This essay was written in 12 pt. size font, the recommended font size from all my teachers.
Monday, July 7, 2008
Another helpful handout was a list of websites that will help us in any way possible concerning getting into college, such as the http://www.collegeboard.com/ site. In the same page they also listed resources that are guides to colleges.
As we continued they also reviewed a third handout titled "What Cornell Looks For". The admission officers explained that there are various factors to a collge admission, but the first thing they look at t continue reviewing your application is your high school transcript. "They want to know about your ability, achievements, motivation, leadership, diligence, and integrity; your sense of fairness and compasion." They want to see if we have taken full advantage of the opportunities that have come our way.
They did comment on how much Cornell costs a year: approximately $52,000. Malcolm Carson asked if they offered full athletic scholarships to attend Cornell and they responded negatively. The Ivies all agreed to not do so.
To sum up, (because I have to go to bed) the advice was to stay on top of everything and start from now, because it will all go as fast as possible that we will not notice time passing by.
At the very end of the talk, they kindly asked us to fill out a survey in order to get our advice and make the workshop a lot better for next year!
Well see you next time on Ana Posting Her Blog! (P.s. I thought I could be funny! =])
Kennedy High School '09
The Individual in the Social World
Wow, would you look at that: only 4 days of class left (including the final).
Oh! And we're getting salsa lessons on Wednesday from our new friend Patricio from Puerto Rico.
Something that I probably won't ever forget about with my time here at Cornell is getting sick. I usually don't get sick, but when I do, I just feel miserable. Sadly, I had to deal with it, due to the fact that I had an essay due on Monday. My key to surviving? Drinking lots of tea/water, and getting my sleep, after taking a pill or two of Benadryl. Now that I had enough sleep, I am almost 100% better. In due time, I will be as fit as I was before I got sick. This experience of getting sick has taught me a lot about myself. I now know that I, in fact, do not need my mommy with my to get better. She taught me well.
Class-wise, I believe I did all-right on my essay. I wrote about Suicide Bombers and the Fundamental Attribution Error. Pretty much, its about how suicide bombers, who many deem as "crazy people, bent on destruction" aren't actually people who are always into killing the whole time. The situation that individual is in affects the behavior of that person a lot. A lesson that is really important to understand. After writing up a rough draft, I was able to submit my paper in an editing workshop, where people were able to fix my grammar, and help me fix my essay up a bit, here and there. I believe it helped me a lot, and recommend going to any type of essay workshops to anyone who has an essay to turn in, if it is available. Take advantage of what's there for you to help you out.
Today, we turned in our papers (there were some pretty interesting topics out there), and got our quiz #2 score back. I didn't do super well, but I learned from my mistakes. I now realize that I can't be perfect at everything I do, but as long as I myself, believe I'm learning, then I am completely fine. In class, we talked about Death, and how knowing that its coming affects how people live their lives. Although the topic itself was interesting, I felt that the lecture in general was a bit dull today. I blame the fact that it is Monday Morning. After class and discussion, we had our Seminar, where we had a guest speaker who's kids both had mental illnesses, and how tough it was to be the mother of the two. Pretty deep stuff. After the Seminar, there was a College Admission panel, where some of the admission officers of Cornell answered questions, and clarified and confusion. They helped a lot. It's important to know about what school you wish to apply to, not just the academic side of it, but also the social side, and if you feel that that school is an environment in which you can handle. Everyone else is as stressed out about getting into college as me, even though I used to think that they wouldn't, because they were just so smart. The thing is, everything is fair game when it comes to admissions. After that, it was back to my dorm for laundry, and homework.
Of course, my whole Monday wasn't all just schoolwork. I went bowling for the first time in awhile. It is really nice to take some time to just have fun. Its important to know that it is not all about studying (although it is pretty important) but as I learned from lecture, life is short, so make the most of it.
I think that's all for today. Have a nice day blog-readers.
Attending the finest hotel school in the world daily makes me curious about the career I want to major in, considering the fields that they offer. I have never thought that I would major at the hotel school, but Cornell summer program has changed my mindset. Cornell's hotel school will be seriously consider when I apply here.
Most people would think that the hotel school is about Hotels, but it is not. The hotel school ranges from a career it in accounting to operating a restaurant. It broadens one presentation skills, communication (writing)skills, and leadership. It prepares one for hospitality management that one desires. The hotel school is truly a beautiful program that can help build a career that can last a life time.
The morning after, we went to the Farmers Market which was soooo beautiful and so big! I enjoyed eating a cinnamon roll and sampling some pesto that tasted just like my dad's, which is a definite plus! I bought these wonderful cards from a woman who is a photographer and one of the best that I've seen. Her cards were so beautiful, I couldn't resist! Later that day, we went on a campus tour with Ms. Kronenberg, which convinced me that I should definately consider applying to Cornell for college. When we were done, I took the best nap of my life before the boat cruise. The best part of the boat cruise was the sunset, hands down. I got so many pictures that turned out wonderful and I took it for the rest of the time. It was one of the most beautiful things I've seen.
Sunday came and it consisted of the Ithaca Commons, where I bought 5 books that I will enjoy reading, laundry and studying. It was more of a day to relax and recuperate after "a hard weekend of partying," if you want to put it that way.
Today, we got our midterms back in the Freedom and Justice class. As expected, I got a "B." It wasn't a shocker, but my TA's comments showed me that I have a lot of room to improve. Now, I have to go and study for the final on Friday!
Afterwards, we wandered around for a bit and browsed a few 60s-80s shops and tried on different outfits. We had a great time.
We came back and began our laundry and began to study and revise our essays.
We got our midterm back together. We all did pretty good. Until next time,
Sunday, July 6, 2008
Saturday, July 5, 2008
Pinole VAlley High School
Class of 2009
At the mall, we had been planning to watch Wanted, but then we decided against it, in favor of helping my friend find jeans.
We ate lunch at a delicious restaurant named Friendly's and hit the road back to our dorms.
At night, we all got dressed up for a dance at the Robert Purcell. It was really fun.
A good friend of ours stayed over in our dorm, and we were up until 2am in the lobby eating pizza and talking.
This morning we woke up early for the Ithaca Farmer's Market. It was incredible - there were various stores ranging from produce, to florist shops, to places that sell paintings (my friend got one!), and wine shops! Ithaca is famous for its wine!
When we got back to Cornell, we went on a campus tour. We toured through the 7 undergraduate colleges and my favorites, Sage Chapel and Willard Straight Slope. My legs really hurt! After, we had some drinks at the Statler Hotel to cool off after the hot day and seventy-five minute walk.
After dinner (which was amazing as always), twelve of us went on a boat cruise and it was better than I had expected. It was a small, but cute boat, and the tour guide explained to us about the sedimentary rock layers which helped form the gorge. We saw a salt mine, nearby were two peninsulas caving in, where we watched the sunset. It was amazing. When the sun set, the captain turned the boat around and we headed back to the Cayuga Lake shore.
Can't wait till tomorrow - lots of reading and shopping (@ Ithaca Commons) to do! The weekend, as always, was magnificent.
Today, we went to the Ithaca Farmer's Market and then came back for a campus tour with Ms. Kronenberg. Even though we'd already been here for two weeks, it was still fun to hear about and to see things that were totally new to us. I've decided that if I come to Cornell for college, I'll be taking Wine Tasting as an elective and Intro to Scuba Diving for P.E. credit. Sounds fun, right?
Tomorrow, we have to revise our Plato essays and read about fifteen pages of Burke.
I can't wait! ;-)
On Friday, we turned in our Chess Report (Hotel Simulation). It was a long assignment, but I feel confident in the quality of my work. Students in the computer lab were stressing over the assignment. I even heard a rumor about a girl crying because of the stress. Now that I completed the assignment, I can finally relax and enjoy my weekend.
Friday, July 4, 2008
This week has been pretty good in terms of the class. we had a debate on Wednesday about whether ethnic bias played a role in the outcome of Lia Lee's health care. I was on the pro-side and we lost. (I think most of the people on my team didn't agree with the pro-side anyway)
Yesterday, we watched a movie about heart surgery for "blue babies." I'd seen a Hollywood version of this documentary, so it was nice to be able to connect it to something I'd already seen.
Now, I'm working on my 6 page paper on The Spirit Catches You and You Fall Down. I'm about a quarter of the way finished, so this weekend is going to be very busy.
Thursday, July 3, 2008
Wow.....I meant to write about something, but now I can't remember what it was. Haha. It's about 1:41 AM and I've been working on a collage of pictures from the fireworks show on the 2nd. I promise to try and post something with more substance tomorrow, but for now I'm sleepin'!
Being here is so different from brown. The weather at brown was mostly sunny, hot humid but overall predictable. Here it can be Sunny few hours then a storm can hit the next. And even when it's rainy its really hot in the dorms. Luckily we have fans. At Brown we didn't have fans. I loved being able to walk down Thayer street and visit all of the interesting shops hand. It felt more like a community there, whereas here at Cornell everything seems more individualistic. Everyone seemed more helpful at Brown. Since this is a college credit class everything is taken more seriously. So the benefit of this that I'm getting an even more real view of college life. But Brown prepared me with internal growth and confidence and its being applied here at Cornell. Being in Brown helped me to be here today in Cornell.
Wednesday, July 2, 2008
Goodnight , as we strive for higher education
- Wendy Espinoza
Today, Wednesday, July 2, 2008, and I went to the lecture and then to the session. After ending both classes, we went to the dinner with Professor Gilovich. We had such a nice talk with him. He told us about all the work he has done. He also mentioned going to the University of California, Santa Cruz and then switching to University of California, Santa Barbara, and mentioned liking it there better. I felt awkward because I had never sat down with a professor and eaten dinner with him, but it's an experience that I will never forget, because it can be helpful in building up my social skills towards professional identities. Now I am totally not afraid of talking with an academic personality and feeling nervous. At the end of our dinner I asked Professor Gilovich if he would be willing to give me a letter of recommendation, and he said yes, as long as I passed his class with an A. I said to him, "I'm going to get an A in your class!"
At thye very end, when we had finished dining, I had a healthy salad with tasty fruit and some good orange juice, we headed over to the ice cream and invited him to have an ice cream with us, it was all the brilliant idea of Wendy. He accepted with a smile and we walked out Appel Commons enjoying our ice cream and our talk.
Finally we got to our dorm, and met at Wendy's room to start studying for the quiz we have tomorrow. We wrote down important information that can be useful for tomorrow's quiz. Yoline and I were writing key concepts on index cards and Wendy was using the website and her notes to study too. We helped each other out, and we feel confident, but not overconfident, because overconfidence doesn't mean we are accurate, key information we learned today at our lecture. During our intensive study, we all started sharing ideas in order to help each other out and that way do much better on the next quiz.
We then received a call from Ms. Neal asking us if we wanted to go to the fireworks today, done by the Ithaca College staff. We then agreed to go for a few minutes and return right after they were done. We did so. Now we are at her room again, and continuing with our study.
It has been a long day, and I'm happy to share my experience with you all, as long as it doesn't take time away from studying. Thanks for staying on top of the ILC. Until next time!
Kennedy High '09
The Individual in the Social World
Summer of '08
So far, Cornell is pretty cool. I am still bummed out about having to walk everywhere, but i feel the strength building up in my legs. Which is pretty cool. I think I have finally figured out why exactly Cornell students are super smart. Because there isn't the lure of shops and such that are close by, people instead sit down, and just study! (At least, that's the thing for me). So maybe that's a factory I might want to think about when applying to different colleges. Emphasis on the might. Another thing about this rural (that's what its called, right?) college is that you kind of have to talk to people that's around you. Since there aren't others. So, in a way, it brings people closer together. And i bet they get super close together when people get snowed in at their dorms. Cornell is very beautiful though. Definitely can give it that.
Luckily I also had the chance to look at Brown. Currently, Brown in my top choice, college-wise. Despite a study that my Professor showed about the admissions at Brown, and how one student almost got in, but she didn't, because she misspelled one word on her application. Still want to go their. Why did I like Brown so much? Because it definitely felt like the home-away-from-home. UC Berkeley used to be my top choice. But the thing is, it was so close to my parents. Not that I don't love my parents, I just think I need to experiance life on my own for a bit. Brown was my UC Berkeley on the East Coast. Thayer St. = Telegraph. Close to a big city (Boston). And it just felt so...for me. Brown is smaller, so one doesn't need to walk super far back and forth from class to class. And the people there just seemed a bit more liberal. And that makes me feel comfortable.
Uh-oh, dinner with your professor is coming up. Guess I should go now.
I'm in shock. It feels like I've only been here for a few days, yet we've already covered the Old/New Testament, St. Augustine/Aquinas, Locke, Plato, and now we're covering 3 more!
I was surprised that the midterm was a lot easier than I thought it'd be. I was up until almost 2 a.m. last night, exchanging questions and testing my friend online. I was so afraid I wasn't prepared enough. I hope I didn't do too bad. I'm pretty sure I did pretty good. Too much confidence seems to be bad luck for me.
Well, fireworks are tonight. July 2, not July 4. Weird. But it'll be nice watching fireworks from a great view.
Tonight is Ithaca's Fourth of July Fireworks Celebration - what better way to celebrate a long day, huh?
Our next essay is geared towards the book The Spirit Catches you and you fall down. Nothing like a book report, we have to analysis and reflect upon the book, not by giving our reader the average information they can receive by reading the book; like the known theme throughout the book of "culture clash." But explain in dept the challenges immigration gives America's medical system , and tie in the ideas of the Lee family (Hmong refugees) and the medical physicians involved in Lia Lee's disease of epilepsy. This next paper which is six pages long is due on Monday. Tonight I will be giving Colleen (my TA) my first paragraph which will contain my thesis statement. By showing her the beginnings of my essay, I hope to gain feed back to see if I am on the right track. Hopefully my essay will be complete by Friday and by then, I will have seen Colleen twice; once for my opening paragraph and the other for my body paragraphs. Besides working on my essay, this week will continue to be dedicated to reading Silent Travelers, a book explaining different diseases and the immigrants that brought the diseases to America. My group will present a chapter summary on chapter 8 for our class tomorrow.
Also this week I ate dinner with my mentor Kari. Kari is one of many staff members at Cornell who volunteered to be a mentor for scholarship students here at summer college. She is very eager and excited to get to know each and everyone of her students. Although she is on vacation this week, she took the time to have dinner with us. This showed me how dedicated she is in getting to know us, and helping make Cornell an enjoyable experience. Hopefully next week my mentor and our group will be able to get together before I leave.
Malcolm, Joseph and I, last night had dinner with professor Goldwin (our body, mind and health professor). Although dinner with a professor might seem uptight and awkward, I actually had a great time. She is very down to earth and gave plenty of advice, not only as a professor, but as a mother who had two kids go through the college admissions process. The dinner was informative.
The excitement I received from getting my essay grade, will definitely help me in writing my paper due Monday. Although I hope I will be done with my essay by Friday, I know that this weekend I will still have final touches to do on it. Majority of my time will be devoted in making my essay the best it possible can be. That way on Sunday night, unlike most kids I will not be rushing to finish my paper.
And hopefully tonight I will have all my work done, so I can go to dance class!
Tuesday, July 1, 2008
Today in my afternoon seminar she came in as a gust speaker demonstrated good listening tactics. People want someone to listen to them when they speak especially when they are trying to convey a problem. These are some of the qualities a great listener has, Understanding, Genuine, Respectful, Esteem, Empathy, and non- Judgemental. This are external attributes of a great listener but external one count as well. It is much easier for a person to continuing expressing themselves and talk when the person listening to them is relaxed, open, leans forward to show engagement, keeps eye contact,remains silent, is encouraging, carrys a moderte tone of voice if speaking.
It's important not to turn to automatically giving advise, and rather let the person try to find a solution to their own problem. It's crucial to not turn the conversation to you, the listener because it sidetracks the person who is having the issue from their own ideas and thoughts. Sometimes when someone expresses that they are having a problem, its almost automatic for someone to respond to that person " Me too!", or " I know what you're going through."
This is an example of turning the conversation away from the other person.
Key phrases to stay away from are "It''ll be OK ,or it's not a big deal." These terms can be offending and in some cases of sign of lacking care or understanding. Instead of using those phrases an empathy statement is the perfect substitute, kind of like splenda you don't get the harsh calories from the sugar but you still get the same wanted sweetness. Empathy Statements Used sound like this, It sounds like you're feeling ______ because________ which is important to you becasue_____. In the first blank goes the feeling, second the content and third the value. So next time someone wants to seriously talk give them your Ears!
I mean, time to have a study party!
Tomorrow is our midterm for the Freedom and Justice class, covering themes and passages from Locke, to Plato, to St. Agustine and St. Thomas Aquinas, to both the Old and New Testaments. Today we finished discussing Locke (a personal favorite even before we came here), and had quite a "heated" debate regarding the meanings and justifications of tacit consent. I loved it. Tonight, our TA is holding a question and answer session for the rest of our group, and then afterwards, some friends and I are going to have our own little get together and review and make a chart of the different concepts of each philosopher; hopefully it works!
I doubt anyone is going to sleep much tonight...
*O, but on a lighter note: I submitted an article to the Summer Times here at Cornell; it was a sort of letter to home talking about the experience so far. I'll post again whe I know more about when/if it's going to be published.